On “Doing Everything Right”

I Wanted Perfection and the “Ideal” Path

The second thing I regret about college is that I tried harder to do everything “right” — I wanted perfection, I wanted to be able to do what most of my classmates did. I wanted to be the best but I was also scared to put myself out there. I wanted to do the normal thing like everyone else — go to grad school, get married eventually, somehow have kids and have a very busy schedule. I knew it would be considered “right” by Asian-American standards to pick a career that makes more money and has easier hours…but I didn’t do that, so I figured I’d be perfect at this job to make up for that. But all that did was stress me out and drive me crazy. So…find your path. If it feels like success to you, even if some people don’t agree, love your decision and yourself.

Basically, life is unexpected.

It can change so quickly, so I just find it extremely important to be able to face the music. Be resilient. Learn about yourself, understand your tendencies and aspects of your personality — and learn how to use them to your advantage. Set goals. Make them happen. And if they don’t happen the first time, try again or reassess your goals. Do what’s right for you, and be patient with yourself because there’s no “right way” you need to do things. You’ll be okay.

Athletic trainer, coffee lover, looking for a hobby I don’t have time for. I write about fitness, mental health, being Asian-American, and personal growth.

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