The utility of being a worrier — and how to take advantage of it.

I’m a worrywart. Mainly because my mom told me so. It’s never been fun, though. It’s like this never-ending pressure on your shoulders, and even when you stop worrying random life issues — you start to worry that you’re not worried about anything. There’s always something to latch onto. And perhaps it’s because I have a brain that could run a mile in 3 minutes. Is that a saying? Well, if not, it should be.

But there are times that being a worrier can come in handy. Not all the time, but I think that looking at things more positively can help with…coming to terms with being a worrier.

One of the first things about being a worrier is that generally, it makes you a rather caring person. Because you’re not just concerned about yourself — you end up worrying about other people, sometimes more than they worry about themselves, which of course is…occasionally concerning. But when used correctly, being such a caring person can be wonderful for yourself and the relationships that you have with other people.

The flip side is that you’re constantly in your own head because you’re a worrier, so sometimes you just…forget to care about them because you’re so worried about yourself — and not in a good way like “hey, I care about myself & I want to be good to myself”. It’s more like “Jen, why do you keep f***-ing up, you’re so dumb, you’re the worst”. You can imagine how that goes, & how blank a face can get during those moments. I’m guilty of one-siding my…